I often wonder why society is so hard on stay at home moms. Why are they not valued anymore? And even more curious is why don’t we hear more about black stay at home moms? This past mothers day I found this article, published by The Root and written by contributor Anthonia Akitunde. I think her insightful look at black stay at home moms is very timely.
Insightful Look at Black Stay at Home Moms
“Historically, many black women haven’t been afforded the option of not having to work. It was “necessary for survival in the U.S. societal context that does not allow a ‘breadwinning’ wage for black men,” writes Riché Daniel Barnes, associate professor of anthropology at Smith College. Even today, the unemployment rate for black women is 10.8 percent, compared with a slightly higher 13.6 percent rate for men.
The need for black women to be breadwinners (along with the separation caused by slavery) has been referenced as being responsible for the fractured black family, in which women are in charge and men are shadowy — if not altogether absent — presences. Whereas a white stay-at-home mom is often assumed to be married, black stay-at-home moms have to deal with the “welfare mom” stigma.
“Many in white America still aren’t even aware that two-parent African-American families exist in which the mother has made the choice to stay at home,” Mattox says.” Read more here…
It was refreshing to find such an intelligent and insightful look at black stay at home moms. Anthonia really does a great job of pointing out the underlying reasons for the way society perceives stay at home moms and why black women have an aversion to “throwing away” their financial and social independence that they have had to work so hard for.
What are your challenges as a stay at home mom?
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